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Rise and Shine!!

Wednesday, November 18th, 2009

Just like most of you, watching movies is one of my favorite ways to unwind after a hectic week. Recently, I saw this fun movie, Wake up, Sid - a breezy movie with a good take home message: “Wake up, get focused and take responsibility”. The morning scene when Ranbir wakes up late from his slumber aimlessly with nothing in particular to do, nowhere to go….. is a common happening in most houses. Let’s just take the simple act of waking up early.

Our parents have always advised us to go off to sleep early and wake up before sunrise. However, most of us simply feel it is impossible to rise early. We prefer to stay up late and finish off our work. Well, if this suits you then it’s fine. But, personally I feel rising early in the morning is one of the best habits you can cultivate.

I simply love greeting the new day by chanting some mantra which thank the Almighty for his wonderful blessings. It fills me with joy, gives me loads of energy to begin my day. Rising early leaves us with sufficient time to have a nourishing breakfast and infuses the much needed energy to start the day. People who have little or no breakfast are more likely to binge during lunch time and consequently more likely to put on weight. Moreover I think morning is the best time of the day to take an appointment with myself. Most of the time our minds are pre-occupied with work and mundane activities. Just when I wake up, I close my eyes, pause and think if I am doing the right thing, taking the right steps rather than simply working and working without prioritizing. Personally I like to complete tasks which involve a lot of concentration in the morning itself. This also applies to exercising. We are more likely to put exercise off our daily list, if we schedule it after work. The likelihood of putting off exercise increases due to sudden meetings, appointments and additional workload. Morning exercise literally cannot be put off. And another reason to wake up early is that I always love to reach on time. So I start early, reach work on time, and begin the day without much stress.

How to adjust your internal clock

  • Avoid drastic changes. Begin by waking up 15 minutes before you normally do and slowly try to reach your goal time…
  • Keep your alarm clock far away, so that you are compelled to get up to switch off the alarm clock.
  • Allot some important task (to yourself) in the morning. It will compel you to wake up early.
  • Avoid watching television and internet surfing at night. Rather read some book in your bed. In no time you will feel drowsy and fall off to sleep.

Let’s replace Sid with our own names and sing this song “Wake up….”

Discipline Problems

Monday, June 22nd, 2009

Picture this. Tina’s mother has asked little Tina to clean her room of all the mess that she has created. Tina plays with all her toys, leaves them where they are and goes out to play. Her mother tries to reason with Tina that she must clear her room as it will look untidy. But eventually ends up cleaning it herself along with the servants. Another example. Neha takes hours to finish her morning breakfast. Her mother fusses over her and pushes the food into Neha’s mouth so that Neha can be in time for her school bus. More often than not, Neha is unable to finish her breakfast and is hurried out of the house into the waiting bus.

 

At some point in life all of us have encountered these situations and feel the need to help our children develop self discipline without using punishment or excessive reasoning. Many times parents try to reason with a misbehaving child which is usually futile because reasoning does not satisfy the goals of a child’s misbehaviour. So how does one discipline one’s child? In my opinion the solution is always natural. Allow natural consequences to unfold…..  the pressure of real and natural consequences is usually effective. This simply means to allow your child or the person you are trying to discipline, to experience the consequences of his/her behaviour without trying to buffer the blow.

 

For instance in the above case, Neha’s mother should inform Neha that she will miss the school bus and therefore miss school if she does not hurry with the breakfast. Allowing her to miss school for one day or more if required would help discipline Neha and bring an end to the daily morning unpleasantness.

 

Needless to say in case of dangerous consequences, the child should be protected from natural consequences as in; when a child runs into the street in front of a car. But when there is no real danger, it is seldom wise to shield your child from the natural consequences of his behaviour. Explain the consequences in a matter-of-fact tone and allow him to experience the consequences. This, in my opinion is one of the best ways to enable a person to develop a sense of discipline and responsibility.